Where are all my people pleasers at? 🙋🏽‍♀️

I’ve been there.

I’ve done that.

I’ve bought the t-shirt.

FOR YEARS, this has been one of my biggest struggles!

However, I, Alisha ✋🏼 - am a recovering perfectionist AND a recovering people pleaser.

The Struggle of Saying "No":

For many of us, saying "no" can be incredibly challenging. It's not just about declining an invitation or request; it often feels like we're letting someone down or being perceived as unhelpful. The fear of disappointing others can drive us to say "yes" when we really should be saying "no."

Alternative Ways to Communicate Boundaries:

But here’s a handy tip I was told… If you struggle saying “no,” there are other ways to communicate your boundaries. These alternatives not only help you maintain your limits but also ensure your relationships remain respectful and considerate. Let’s explore a few:

Cheering from the Sidelines: "This sounds fantastic, but I will have to cheer you on from the sidelines."

Capacity Constraint: "I'm currently at full capacity." or "I’m not taking on anything new at the moment."

Appreciation with a Decline: "I appreciate you asking me, but I’m going to have to say no."

Cloning Humor: "If only I had a clone…"

Well-Wishing: "This is something I’ll need to pass on, but wishing you the very best with this."

Suggesting Alternatives: "While this isn’t something I can help you with, I can suggest…"

These alternative responses not only help you maintain your boundaries but also ensure clear communication. Remember, saying "no" doesn't have to be a negative experience; it can be a way to prioritise self-care and maintain your well-being.

What other creative ways do you use to say “NO”? Comment below!